120 Self Pity Quotes To Help You Get Out Of It

Looking for quotes about self pity? We have rounded up the best collection of self pity quotes, sayings, captions, proverbs, messages, (with images, pictures) that you can relate to.

It’s okay to have the blues for a while if you are depressed and or going through a relationship breakup, or any other struggle. But once you have that emotional meltdown, you need to get over the feeling of self pity and learn from your mistakes to move on.

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Regularly feeling bad for yourself when things don’t go down your way can also lead to depression. It becomes a pattern to feel sorry for yourself and believe that you suffer because life is unfair to you every time. This feeling is sad, and very taxing personally, mentally, and spiritually.

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These inspirational quotes about feeling sorry for yourself all the time will give you a positive perspective and help you come out of the rut of self pity. Life is all about ups and downs, and learning everyday, so if something goes wrong don’t get stuck and be optimistic in life.

We have divided these self pity sayings in the following sections;

  • Self Pity Quotes
  • Pity Quotes
  • Funny Self Pity Quotes

Don’t forget to check our collection of powerful bounce back quotes to give you the adrenaline rush you need to work again on your dreams.

Self Pity Quotes

  1. “Self-pity shortens your life …”- Joan Rivers

  2. “Self-pity makes people callous.”- Mason Cooley

  3. “Whatever it is, pitying yourself will not solve it.”

  4. “Self-pity is the simplest luxury.”- Rita Mae Brown

  5. “Self-pity comes so naturally to all of us.”- Andre Maurois

  6. “Self-pity can make one weep, as can onions.” – Jerry Fodor

  7. “Self-pity dries up our sympathy for others.”- Mason Cooley

  8. “What poison is to food, self-pity is to life.” – Oliver C. Wilson                                             
    Self Pity Quotes
    Self Pity Quotes

  9. “Pity the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.” – Don Marquis

  10. “The opposite of having faith is having self-pity.”- Os Guinness

  11. “Self-pity is a sin. It is a form of living suicide.”- Charles J. Shields

  12. “Self-pity is an acid which eats holes in happiness.”- Earl Nightingale

  13. “Self-pity is the most destructive of all narcotics.”- Sebastian Horsley

  14. “Honesty is as rare as a man without self-pity.”- Stephen Vincent Benet

  15. “Self pity is a disease which does not kill but corrodes.”- Aidan Chambers                                           
    Famous Quotes About Self Pity
    Famous Quotes About Self Pity

  16. “This life is not for complaint, but for satisfaction.” – Henry David Thoreau

  17. “Sympathy is never wasted except when you give it to yourself.” – John W. Raper

  18. “I tell people to monitor their self-pity. Self-pity is very unattractive.” – Patty Duke

  19. “Self-pity is never useful. It tends to distort like a fun-house mirror.”- Anne Roiphe

  20. “Self-pity is one of the most dangerous forms of self-centeredness.”- It fogs our vision.

  21. “If you’re not careful, you can fall into a destructive cycle of self-pity.”- Victoria Osteen

  22. “Mistakes are a drag, because you get in the area of regret and self-pity.”- Carrie Fisher

  23. “Self-pity will keep you immobilized so that your future is no different than your past.”                                                                                                                                             
    Self Pity Quotes Images
    Self Pity Quotes Images

  24. “Gratitude is a dialysis of sorts… it flushes the self-pity out of our systems.” – Max Lucado

  25. “Self-pity is spiritual suicide. It is an indefensible self-mutilation of the soul.”- Anthon Maarten

  26. “Optimism and self-pity are the positive and negative poles of modern cowardice.” – Cyril Connolly

  27. “But the day I can’t shrug off a twinge of self-pity, is the day I’m washed up for keeps.” – Jonathan Lethem

  28. “Practically all the sadness we experience in life comes from our feeling sorry for ourselves.” – Marty Rubin

  29. “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.” – Helen Keller

  30. “Identity is not inherent. It is shaped by circumstance and sensitivity and resistance to self-pity.” – Dorothy West

  31. “Try to avoid complaints. Self-pity even when legitimate never fails to undermine your strength.” – Mariane Pearl

  32. “To feel sorry for oneself is one of the most disintegrating things the individual can do to himself.” – Winifred Rhoades                                                                             
    Feeling Sorry For Yourself Quotes
    Feeling Sorry For Yourself Quotes

  33. “It’s all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are finished.” – Debbie Macomber

  34. “There is only one way to end a self-pity cycle: stop comparing yourself to others, and simply follow Christ.” – Linda Harry

  35. “Self-pity comes so naturally to all of us. The most solid happiness can be shaken by the compassion of a fool.”- Andre Maurois

  36. “Self-pity is… a sinkhole from which no rescuing hand can drag you because you have chosen to sink.” – Elisabeth Elliot

  37. “Try not to sing too many sad songs for yourself. The universe already hates you. Self-pity isn’t going to help.” – Richard Kadrey

  38. “Projecting yourself until everything is talking about you is, of course, a self-flattering form of self-pity.” – Aleksandar Hemon

  39. “Self-pity is an awful thing. You’re just wallowing, blaming, and justifying. Stop it. You’re attracting negativity to yourself even more.”

  40. “Self pity becomes your oxygen. But you learned to breathe it without a gasp. So, nobody even notices you’re hurting.” – Paul Monette

  41. “Never feel self-pity, the most destructive emotion there is. How awful to caught up in the terrible squirrel cage of self.” – Millicent Fenwick

  42. “Self-pity is the most negative quality of the human spirit. Difficulties in life are intended to make us better, not bitter.” – Jon M Huntsman Sr

  43. “Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.” – Maya Angelou                                                                     
    Victim Self Pity Quotes
    Victim Self Pity Quotes

  44. “You need not spend your life wallowing in failure, ignorance, grief, poverty, shame and self-pity. There is a better way to live.” – Og Mandino                       
    Pity Quotes
    Pity Quotes

  45. “I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.” – D.H. Lawrence

  46. “Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.” – Dale Carnegie

  47. “Discontent, blaming, complaining, self-pity cannot serve as a foundation for a good future, no matter how much effort you make.”- Eckhart Tolle

  48. “Spare yourselves from the indulgence of self-pity. It is always self-defeating. Subdue the negative and emphasize the positive.” – Gordon B Hinckley

  49. “Self pity is like burying yourself alive. Every poor-me thought is like a shovelful of dirt on your grave…the grave you’re digging for yourself.” – Beth K. Vogt

  50. “Suffering… is not just lots of pain but pain amplified by distinctly human emotions such as regret, self-pity, shame, humiliation, and dread.” – Michael Pollan

  51. “I’ve never understood pity and self-pity as an emotion. We have a finite amount of time. Whether short or long, it doesn’t matter. Life is to be lived.” – Randy Pausch

  52. “In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, ‘Listen, I have to be responsible for myself.’”- Howard Schultz

  53. “Anger, resentment, envy, and self-pity are wasteful reactions. They greatly drain one’s time. They sap energy better devoted to productive endeavors.” – Ruth Bader Ginsburg

  54. “Self pity is the worst possible disease that can affect mankind. And if we do just the opposite, which is love, then we have God’s feelings with us at all times.”- Jon Huntsman, Sr.

  55. “Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as bundle of possibilities and undertake the mist interesting game in the world making the most of one’s best.”- Harry Emerson Fosdick

  56. “I’m not going to wallow in self-pity and not live my life. There are always going to be some falls in life for everybody, no matter what career you have. You have to roll with the punches and keep going.” – Naomi Campbell

  57. “Dear Me, Self pity is not your thing, love yourself…Don’t be afraid to fall, think what if you fly… Stop being ashamed of mistakes, take steps and learn from your past… Stop comparing, start believing… Remember, bliss is within you, make it yours.”

  58. “If you repeat your negative memories in your mind and feel self-pity, then YOU are both the abuser and the victim – not those who wronged you in the past. Your present and future will be happier if you take control of your thoughts.”- Maddy Malhotra

  59. “There’s great sadness and life doesn’t work out like you would want, on a lot of levels, but there’s no need to feel all alone. This happens to everybody, so there’s no self-pity. This is the ride that humans are on, and all of it is essential for our natural part of it.”- Mike Mills

  60. “Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat… Never take yourself too seriously.” – Og Mandino

  61. “Today I choose to live by choice, not by chance; to make changes, not excuses. To be motivated, not manipulated. To be useful, not used. To excel, not compete. I choose self-esteem, not self-pity. I choose to listen to the inner voice, not the random opinion of others.”

  62. “Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred’s a subset of self pity and not the other way around – “it destroys everything around it, except itself.” – Stephen Fry

  63. “If someone decides they’re not going to be happy, it’s not your problem. You don’t have to spend your time and energy trying to cheer up someone who has already decided to stay in a bad mood. Believe it or not, you can actually hurt people by playing into their self-pity.”- Joyce Meyer

  64. “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. It’s not going to help the situation. It’ll only help you to wallow in a state of apathy, playing the victim. The kind of person that things happen to, but that can’t do anything about it. By stopping feeling sorry for yourself, you can actually get on and do something about it. If you want to be happy stop feeling sorry for yourself.”

  65. “Self-pity doesn’t serve us. It only reinforces the mistaken belief that our happiness is beyond our control. If you’re unhappy with the reality of your life, do something about it. Make different choices. Don’t just complain about how difficult life is. That only makes harder, guaranteed. Yes, life can be unfair. Often painful. That’s never a reason to give up, or to give in, to relentless, debilitating self-pity. ”- Scott Stabile

Pity Quotes

Feeling pity for yourself is like a drama cycle which may initially feels comforting because as a victim, someone else tries to save us from our problems. You feel significant as its a nice feeling to know someone cares about you.

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But this pity party will eventually become quite addictive and plays havoc with your life and relationships. Your perception creates our reality and by changing our viewpoint, we are able to change any experience.

  1. “All pity is self-pity.”- W. H. Auden

  2. “Cruelty is softened by fear, not pity.”- Mason Cooley

  3. “Care and pity are two different things.”- Vince Staples

  4. “Self-pity – it’s the only pity that counts.”- Oscar Levant

  5. “Sensual excess drives out pity in man. ”- Marquis De Sade

  6. “It’s a mistake to confuse pity with love.”- Stanley Kubrick

  7. “It is easy to condemn, it is better to pity.”- Lyman Abbott

  8. “To pity distress is but human; to relieve it is Godlike.”- Horace Mann

  9. “We need to suffer, that we may learn to pity.”- Letitia Elizabeth Landon

  10. “A pity beyond all telling is hid in the heart of love.”- William Butler Yeats

  11. “Pity is the deadliest feeling that can be offered to a woman.”- Vicki Baum

  12. “Then cherish pity, lest you drive an angel from your door.”- William Blake

  13. “Pity addresses the perceived suffering, not the whole individual.”- Phil Klay

  14. “Where mercy, love, and pity dwell, there God is dwelling too.”- William Blake

  15. “Pity speaks to grief more sweetly than a band of instruments.”- Bryan Procter

  16. “Pity the nation that has to silence its writers for speaking their minds.”- Arundhati Roy

  17. “Pity those who nature abuses; never those who abuse nature.”- Richard Brinsley Sheridan

  18. “Pity the selfishness of lovers: it is brief, a forlorn hope; it is impossible.”- Elizabeth Bowen

  19. “To love with the spirit is to pity, and he who pities most loves most.”- Miguel de Unamuno

  20. “Compassion has enemies, and those enemies are things like pity, moral outrage, fear.”- Joan Halifax

  21. “When the severity of the law is to be softened, let pity, not bribes, be the motive.”- Miguel de Cervantes

  22. “Only those who spread treachery, fire, and death out of hatred for the prosperity of others are undeserving of pity.”- Jose Marti

  23. “The person who deserves most pity is a lonesome one on a rainy day who doesn’t know how to read.”- Benjamin Franklin

  24. “Anger and hate against one we love steels our hearts, but contempt or pity leaves us silent and ashamed.”- Edgar Rice Burroughs

  25. “There is little for the great part of the history of the world except the bitter tears of pity and the hot tears of wrath.”- Woodrow Wilson

  26. “Let no one underestimate the need of pity. We live in a stony universe whose hard, brilliant forces rage fiercely.”- Theodore Dreiser

  27. “That sort of half sigh, which, accompanied by two or three slight nods of the head, is pity’s small change in general society.”- Charles Dickens

  28. “All those who offer an opinion on any doubtful point should first clear their minds of every sentiment of dislike, friendship, anger or pity.”- Sallust

  29. “Pity may represent little more than the impersonal concern which prompts the mailing of a check, but true sympathy is the personal concern which demands the giving of one’s soul.”- Martin Luther King, Jr.

  30. “There is an electric fire in human nature tending to purify – so that among these human creatures there is continually some birth of new heroism. The pity is that we must wonder at it, as we should at finding a pearl in rubbish.”- John Keats

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Funny Self Pity Quotes

  1. “There better be a damn good gift bag when your pity party is over.”

  2. “Mmm, what’s this again? Oh, yes. Self-pity casserole. And you made it all by yourself!”

  3. “Oh, people have hurt you because they were honest! how unfair! Let’s have a ‘pity party’.”

  4. “Your frequent indulgence in self pity makes people want to spend more time with you. Not.”

  5. “Everything happens for a reason. But sometimes the reason is that you’re stupid and make bad decisions…”

  6. “Your pity party on Facebook should have been created under events so we could have chosen to attend or not.”

  7. “It is only a step from boredom to disillusionment, which leads naturally to self-pity, which in turn ends in chaos.”- Manly Hall

  8. “I wanted to let you know that I did get the passive/aggressive invite to your pity party…And I am gonna be busy for that entire problem!”

  9. “Grief and disappointment are like hate: they make men ugly with self-pity and bitterness. And how selfish they make us too.” – Graham Greene

  10. “Self-pity is easily the most destructive of non-pharmaceutical narcotics. It is addictive. Gives momentary pleasure and separated the victim from reality.” – John W. Gardner

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Read on to find these encouraging words of wisdom about self pity quotes and sayings (wallpapers) that will motivate you to keep hustling and getting back up.

Self pity isn’t a good or bad thing; it just doesn’t work over the long term. The more we feel sorry for ourselves, the more inclined we are to keep repeating unwanted circumstances.

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